13 Tips to help you through Valentine’s Day

Family Solicitor Yasmin Khan-Gunns provides her tips on how to get though Valentine’s Day for those who have recently gone through separation or divorce.

Visit your friends and family (even if only online this year). Invest and celebrate the love you have from others.

Appreciate yourself, what you have been through and where you are now. 

Lift your mood by doing something that makes you happy. 

Express yourself. Avoid bottling up your emotions. Don’t feel ashamed to cry.

Normalise and embrace being single.

Therapy may help. Reach out to a professional and talk about your feelings. 

Inspire others. If Valentine’s day is just another day for you, consider speaking to others who may not be handling it very well. .

Never contact you ex. Nothing good will come of it.

Enjoy the day with your children. They may be thinking about the breakdown of your relationship and will need your support.

Start a new tradition. Spain celebrates the Day of the Book and the Rose on the 23 April. This involves people giving other people a rose or a book. Try it.


Don’t go on social media. It is often not a reflection of reality.

Avoid comparing yourself to the loved up couples around you. 

You can still celebrate Valentine’s day. It may be that you are celebrating a new chapter in your life, getting your identity back, socialising more, escaping an abusive relationship, rediscovering you and what you want, having more time on your hands and so forth.


Disclaimer: This document does not present a complete or comprehensive statement of the law, nor does it constitute legal advice. It is intended only to highlight issues that may be of interest to clients of BLM. Specialist legal advice should always be sought in any particular case.

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