Divorce self-care tips during Christmas



Divorce self-care tips during Christmas

In the tenth of our #12DaysOfChristmas #12DaysOfFamilyLaw blog series, we thought we’d break the mould slightly. ‘Well-being ‘ is a topic that is currently receiving a lot of airplay, however for BLM’s Private Wealth team, our clients’ well-being is central to how we operate.

We know that the festive season can be utterly overwhelming for many divorcing couples. Whilst others are preparing for the festive season, for those suffering relationship breakdown, emotions and tensions can run high. If children are involved this can heighten feelings. We encourage our clients to look after themselves in the knowledge that if they don’t… then no one stands to benefit.


Some tips to get you through the festive season:

  1. Where children are involved - stick to your budget on the present buying. Don’t go overboard. It’s not a competition.
  2. Exercise regularly – don’t let the dark mornings/evenings throw your determination to keep fit and healthy.
  3. Don’t feel obliged to say yes to every Christmas drinks’ invite you receive. This can be exhausting and could lead to a loss of focus.
  4. If your family or friends ask you for present ideas for you, why not consider a facial or a massage for yourself? Or even better, why not treat yourself?
  5. Keep communicating for as long as you can both manage to do...and be kind. Remember that you loved each other once and you will need to find a way through this even when separated. It may be hard but you will feel better for it.
  6. Ask your friends and family for support – even if it is looking after the children for a few hours so you can have some respite.
  7. Accept offers of kindness – e.g. take your uncle up on his offer to bring the turkey!
  8. Practice self-compassion. It is the season of goodwill after all and compassion should start with you.
  9. Consider therapy. You may be experiencing a range of emotions that you are struggling to deal with and sometimes therapy can really help you see a way through. Reaching out for help when needed is a sign of strength.
  10. You didn’t plan for this and you are unlikely to be prepared or have the knowledge required to see you through. See a lawyer at the earliest opportunity so you can concentrate on you and they can concentrate on the legal aspects.


Disclaimer: This document does not present a complete or comprehensive statement of the law, nor does it constitute legal advice. It is intended only to highlight issues that may be of interest to customers of BLM. Specialist legal advice should always be sought in any particular case.


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