Divorce and civil partnership dissolution self-care tips during Christmas

In the run up to Christmas and throughout the festive period, BLM's Private Wealth practice is sharing a series of blogs demystifying elements of the legal process impacting individuals and families seeking legal remedies. Here we'll share some of BLM's family & private wealth expertise.  

In the first of our #12DaysOfChristmas #12DaysOfFamilyLaw blog series, we thought we’d break the mould slightly. For BLM’s Private Wealth team, our clients’ well-being is central paramount.

We know that the festive season can be utterly overwhelming for many separating couples. While others are preparing for the festive season those suffering relationship breakdown can struggle with emotions and tensions running high. If children are involved this can heighten feelings. We encourage our clients to look after themselves in the knowledge that if they don’t then no-one stands to benefit.

Some tips to get you through the festive season:

  • Where children are involved - stick to a budget for spending on presents. Don’t go overboard. It’s not a competition.
  • Exercise regularly - don’t let the dark mornings and evenings stop you keeping fit and healthy. Even a 20-30 minute walk can help clear the head.
  • While there may be fewer opportunities to celebrate this year, don’t feel obliged to say yes to every festive invite you receive. This can be exhausting and could lead to a loss of focus.
  • If your family or friends ask you for ideas for a present for you, why not consider a facial or a massage? Or why not just treat yourself?
  • Keep communicating for as long as you can both manage, and be kind. Remember that you loved each other once and you will need to find a way through this. It may be hard but you will feel better for it.
  • Ask your friends and family for support. With all of the additional pressures that 2020 has brought, lean on friends and family if you need to - even if it is looking after the children (where COVID guidance permits) for a few hours or a zoom catch-up.
  • Accept offers of kindness from others, for example take those in your support bubble up on any offers to cook the turkey!
  • Practice self-compassion. It is the season of goodwill after all and compassion should start with you.
  • Consider therapy. You may be experiencing a range of emotions that you are struggling to deal with and sometimes therapy can help you find a way through. Reaching out for help when needed is a sign of strength. We can put you in touch with services that could provide help.
  • You didn’t plan for this so may not be fully prepared or have all of the required knowledge to deal with all aspects of the situation. See a lawyer at the earliest opportunity so you can concentrate on yourself and the lawyer can start to deal with the legal aspects. Even though we may still be mainly working from home, we can still offer telephone or video-call appointments to assist.

Disclaimer: This content does not present a complete or comprehensive statement of law, nor does it constitute legal advice. It is intended only to highlight issues that may be of interest to clients of BLM. Specialist legal advice should always be sought in any particular case.

Who to contact

Caroline
Gillespie

Partner and Head of Family Law, Scotland , Glasgow

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